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I help family men connect and commit so your wife won’t leave you and your kids don’t hate you.
Me at my son’s kindergarten party

Welcome to my profile page! My name is Adam Hillis.

I write to encourage, inspire, and equip family men so their wives don’t leave them and their kids won’t hate them.

Why I Write What I Write

My wife and I had a rough beginning to our marriage. I imagine similar to most people.

As the…

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“For what good is it if only a sliver of you remains? … In truth, no one can live with a sliver; for slivers, even of gold, are near-impossible to hold.” —Mark Nepo

Does it ever feel like your partner only accepts a piece of you and can’t accept the…

My Dad and My Nephew

“Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” —Charles Kettering

After working nearly his whole life, my dad retired just three weeks shy of turning 70. He’ll be 74 in a couple days.

Entering this season of his life, my dad has been…

Happy Monday! Here are this week’s stories from the Vault!

I hope you guys had an awesome weekend.
Just wanted to draw attention to the two stories we posted this week.

What I Regret I Didn’t Do When My Kids Still Lived At Home

Having 3 kids in their twenties, Vuyo Ngcakani brought us a great piece where he looks back on what…

Author Created Meme

“Before fixing what you’re looking at, check what you’re looking through.” —Mark Nepo

The way your family, in-laws, and friends see your life, marriage, and parenting is much like a reality show.

They are only around you a bit, so that’s all they get to see—a bit.

You share stories…

Hey Everyone!

It’s been a couple weeks since I sent the last newsletter announcing changes coming to The Dad Hammer publication. Well… the first change is here!

The Dad Hammer is now The Dad Vault.

Today brings a new name, new logo, and some tweaks to the submission guidelines.


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“‘Father’ is the noblest title a man can be given. It is more than a biological role. It signifies a patriarch, a leader, an exemplar, a confidant, a teacher, a hero, a friend.”

—Robert L. Backman

The Dad Vault publication is a collection of articles for family men about the…

Hey Everyone!

I wanted to introduce myself (more info below). My name is Adam Hillis, and I am going to be stepping in for Jack.

Quick backstory…

He and I met years ago at our church in Portland, OR. Then a few months later he moved to Eastern Washington and…

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Bringing home our first born from the hospital was surreal. With a brother 15 years younger than me, I had a good deal of experience changing diapers, making bottles, and rocking babies to sleep. But this was different. This one was mine!

He has my DNA and looks like me…

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“For whoever finds [wisdom] finds life and obtains favor… he who fails to find [wisdom] injures himself…”

—Proverbs 8:35–36

Learning comes from one of two places: wisdom or consequences. Either we’re taught from others who already have the knowledge, or we learn from the consequences of our choices.

The more…

Adam Hillis

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